Enamour Magazine

Judging...assuming...talking....not knowing...whatever you wanna call it...

 
I've been wanting to talk about this for quite a while now, not because of present issues or anything in that matter...just because everyone tends to do it.."judge".. we can't deny that us females judge other females by their appearance or how they dress and do their hair/makeup, i mean I do it...it doesn't necessarily have to be something negative of course but we do Judge by what we see and come out with our own little assumptions. I've realized how annoying it is when you know people judge you specifically (now i am including myself) it hits a nerve when people around you judge you base on your actions, what you say and what you do but yet have no clue whatsoever the specific situation that person is going through. This made me think a lot the other day because i wouldn't like to judge someone and make them feel that way, since I myself have been through it. No one should give opinionated thoughts in situations they have not been through...you can never say "Oh i will never do what she/he did, She/he is a very dumb person for doing that bla bla...-ya get the point-...we all say it though but it shouldn't be that way unless we been through that same particular situation then we would have our words and own experiences to back it up. If you have close friends that are constantly doing something you can't stand or don't agree upon, don't judge them or assume they are doing whatever it is based on your ignorance....talk to them and tell them what you think about the situation instead of judging it. And of course its not only situations being judged daily is what we do, how we look, what we wear etc. Someone once told me "i don't care what people say or think about me, i am who i am and no one can change that and i don't give a f-ck what they think", that was well said indeed ... i honestly believe it should be that way, i mean you cant stop people from assuming or judging your every move but i know no one wants to be looked up as something they are not...no one wants to be known as something they are the total opposite of and they would try their best to let people know who they truly are which is the hardest part of all....cause you cant convince everyone equally right??.. all we can do is stop judging each other...know better before speaking about things..look twice before deceiving...judge yourself internally before judging them...you really have no idea what it is to be in their shoes, do you?